The Breaking Point

[NCSpankher]

Looking for some ideas here. One young lady that I have had the pleasure of spanking lately has told me that she wants to reach the breaking point. That is getting to the point of the spanking really affecting her and hopefully tears. The problem is that she is really quite tough and stoic. Tonight I spanked her very hard and long with my hand, leather paddle, two wood paddles and a lexan paddle. I even used some oil on her bottom to intensify the sting. This barely seemed to get to her at all. I am fairly experienced and have spanked several ladies but I've never had one so unaffected. I was afraid to go any harder or longer because of fear of leaving her too brusied.

Does anyone have any thoughts of how to make the spanking more effective without just beating her senseless? The last spankng I gave her left purple marks for about a week and we dont want it any worse than that.

Any help would be great.

[Lancisto]

Tears are often guarded by a strong lock - brute force won't bring them out, but if you have the key then it's a peice of cake. The key is, of course, the mind of the lady in question. Without knowing the her it's hard to advise on specifics, but I would suggest that you need to find out why she want to cry and build something around that.

Maybe there is a particular thing that she wants guilt expunged for, maybe a particular implement which holds fear and fascination for her. Who knows? Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to find out.

One final point, when the tears finally do flow, it is possible that it will be the most profound emotional experience that the lady has ever had. Please read about after care and plan accordingly.

Hope this gives you a start,
L.

[Jack]

Sounds like she is looking for a strong emotional experience. Simply bearing physical pain doesn't affect her that way, and after a certain level, more pain not only gets diminishing returns, but the eventual tears may not represent the kind of emotional experience she's needing. If it was me, I would have to get to know her. It would take some very intimate discussions before I could get a feel for what issues she is dealing with, and what triggers her emotions. It may turn out that I'm not the right person for it, but sometimes the words you use, the tone you adopt, is far more important - the spanking itself acting as merely a catalyst.

Crying can be a very positive thing. It's possible she needs to feel understood and cared for, a release from guilt or stress, maybe even to work through something painful from her past. I wouldn't expect to reach that point immediately, or without taking a keen interest in her life and as a person.

Good luck,

Jack

[Sammie]

Sounds just like me a few months ago...

For me, it's pretty hard to make me cry from just spanking alone, although there are a couple of implements that get me close. Have you tried a cane? The looped cane has a particularly nasty sting. The Lexan is good, lots of sting and not much bruising. You are right, a wet bottom stings a lot more, so does no warm-up.

The guys are right though... you need to find her trigger point -- what makes her lose control. I've discussed this with a bunch of people and it's different for everyone. You will have to get into her mind somehow... that is the key.

Some need to feel that it is a discipline spanking ... or actually BE one if you can pull it off in your relationship. Verbal build-up, anticipation, fear, disappointment... ya need to find out her weakness. Try tying her down or put her in an uncomfortable position. Even though I can be very stoic and can be totally still... when I am tied down, I don't have the choice anymore and it definitely trips my emotional trigger.

Good luck, crying can be a very free-ing feeling and Lancisto is right on... make sure you are available for aftercare. If she is not used to feeling that vulnerable, when she does get to the point of actually crying, she may feel out of her element and somewhat uncomfortable with the situation.

Sammie

[Jenera]

You might want to try, like others suggested, finding out about her past and see if she has anything she's done anything that she still carries guilt around about. I told Derek everything about my past and every so often when he knows I need to just let go and cry, as hitting my breaking point is extremely hard for me as well, he'll scold me about something I did in the past that only he knows about. He'll spank me gently and increase the sting of the swats as he scolds, using gentle words and asking me if I'm sorry about it. The scolding stops after that and the spanking gets more severe and as I am softer emotionally, the pain actually gets to me and I start sniffling and eventually crying. Hitting a breaking point is 99% emotional 1% pain and as all people have different pain tolerances, it is often harder to ignore a sore bottom than a sore heart.